It's Okay To Be A Little Salty

disclaimer--Rated PG-13 for language

My friend and I were talking the other day and she joked that I need to write about, and I quote, "how not to be a salty bitch even when you have the right to be." Challenge accepted, Danielle. 😂

First, we need to unpack what it means to be a "salty bitch." According to Urban Dictionary, a salty bitch is one who is depressing, sad, and overall dampens the mood of others. It also states that it is someone who is butthurt (offended) at life in general.

Well, I would say a lot of us have the right to be salty from time to time then. If you are going through big trials and tribulations, you are going to be depressed and sad. One can't go through the death of someone close to them, losing their job, relationship troubles, financial issues, health problems, or a myriad of other issues without being a little salty at times. Life is hard!

I suppose the way to not be a salty bitch is to remind yourself that it is absolutely okay to be salty, but you don't have to be a bitch. We have every right to feel what we feel. If you are sad, feel those feelings. If you are angry, that is okay too. However, it is never okay to treat someone poorly.

Dampen the mood of others? Sure, that might happen. If you are sad, and you are at a party, you might bring the vibe down a bit. That is to be expected. However, if you are sad, and you are deliberately trying to spoil everyone's fun, that isn't okay. If you are angry, and you are treating people poorly that isn't okay.

Sometimes, we have to remove ourselves from situations until we can get our emotions in check. Because while you have every right to be salty, you don't have every right to be a bitch. Let's say your spouse spent money without telling you, and now you can't pay the mortgage or another big bill. You have every right to be frustrated, angry, or sad. You have every right to feel whatever you feel. That is the way feelings work.

What you don't have the right to do is start yelling at your spouse, cussing, and calling them names. None of that is going to solve the problem. Plus, why would you speak to the person that you love the most in the world, or that you are supposed to love the most in the world, that way?

Now, I am not telling you to sit back, accept the behavior, and sweep it under the rug. Absolutely not! That won't get you anywhere. But yelling and disrespecting your partner won't get you anywhere either. So, while you have every right to be salty, you don't have the right to be a salty bitch.

So, if something comes up, bite your tongue. Give yourself some space between you and the other person. Think about the best way to get your point across to the person, and then proceed forward when you are calm.

If you tell me that your spouse treats you like a salty bitch, they yell, cuss and scream, and they don't apologize, I am going to tell you what I tell my students....two wrongs don't make a right. You don't get to treat your spouse a certain way just because they do it to you. Be a role model. Treat them better so that you can have a clear conscious and know that you are behaving well. AND when they are calm, absolutely talk to them about how they have been treating you or write it out and give them the letter when they are calm.

Hopefully they will learn to do better, but do not sink to their level. Rise up, my friends! I know it isn't easy, and I am here to chat if you ever need someone.

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